MUMBAI: Actress Sherleen Dutt says that when it comes to love, your deepest feelings matter. The actress, who has been a part of KINK and 'Honey Trap Squad' as well as web series Koi Jaye Toh Le Aaye and the current Shringarika, says that she would love to celebrate love in a way that is private to her and her partner, instead of grand gestures.
“I believe love is something deeply personal, almost sacred. It’s not about grand public gestures or validation from the world—it’s about the quiet moments, the unspoken understanding, the way someone’s presence alone can make the world feel right. If I love someone, I’d rather celebrate it in a way that only we understand. A deep conversation, a long walk, or just sitting in silence, knowing that love doesn’t need an audience—it just needs to be felt,” she says.
In today’s fast-paced world of flings, situationships, and complex relationships, old-school love seems rare, she says. “Unfortunately. Love, which was once about depth and devotion, now often feels like a highlight reel. People seek validation in likes and comments rather than in the quiet assurance of knowing they’re truly loved. The purity of just being with someone, without the world watching, is fading. Love isn’t a social media post; it’s in the way someone holds your hand when you’re breaking down, in the way they stay even when things aren’t perfect. But in today’s world, it seems many are more obsessed with looking like they’re in love than actually being in love,” she adds.
She says, “Old-school love was about depth, about fighting for someone instead of replacing them. It was about letters, about stolen glances, about patience. Now, people fall in and out of love as if it’s a trend. The mystery, the longing, the intensity—it’s all fading into a culture of instant gratification. Love used to be about forever. Now, it’s about ‘for now.’ And I think that’s the saddest thing of all.”
Ask her if she thinks social media is changing the meaning of love and relationships, and she says, “Absolutely. Love should be about two souls, not a performance for the world. Social media has turned love into a competition—who gets the best proposal, the most extravagant date, the perfect couple aesthetic. But love isn’t aesthetic. It’s messy, raw, unpredictable. It’s crying at 2 AM and someone wiping your tears. It’s fighting but choosing to stay. It’s not about proving love to the world—it’s about proving it to the person you love.”
She adds, “Love has become more about spectacle than substance. Grand gestures used to be about genuine emotion—about writing someone a letter because you missed them, about waiting hours just to see them for five minutes. Now, it’s about capturing the perfect shot for Instagram, about public proposals for the sake of virality. Love isn’t measured in grand gestures but in the small, everyday moments—like someone remembering how you take your coffee or holding you close when you feel lost. That’s love. Not a viral post.”
But pure love still exists, she says, adding, “Pure love still exists in the quiet moments, in the people who love beyond conditions and expectations. It’s in the way someone waits for you, believes in you, fights for you. It’s in the way someone chooses you every single day, even when it’s hard. The world may have changed, but love—the real kind—will always belong to those who believe in it enough to fight for it.”
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