MUMBAI: Astrologer Rinhee Suberwal, who is also a choreographer as well as a past life regression therapist, vaastu consultant, numerologist and crystal healer, says that all that is important in a marriage is friendship. She adds that constant effort needs to be put in from both sides.
“I feel that the institution of marriage is overrated. I believe that if you don’t maintain a good friendship with your partner, if there is no mutual respect, and if you don’t put effort into the relationship, it can lead to problems. Nowadays, people’s emotions feel very shallow, and no one seems to connect in a deep and meaningful way. It has all become a convenience-based game, where people think, ‘If you show me love, I’ll show you love, and then we’ll see how it goes.’ But it doesn’t work like that. The institution of marriage is overrated because people have unrealistic expectations from it, and that’s why it often fails miserably. When there is self-doubt and a lack of self-love, relationships can never work,” she says.
She adds, “People need to focus on developing themselves first. I’m still learning to love myself, and as a healer, it becomes even more challenging because there’s pressure to set an example for others. I strongly believe that the more spiritual you are, the better you can channel your energy to create a good and fulfilling life. Whether it’s dealing with authorities, personal life, professional life, marriage, or business, your mind needs to stay calm. Only then can you act with wisdom and clarity. Secondly, I feel that if you want to make a marriage work, you need to put in double the effort. The other person will never make the marriage work on their own. You need to put in effort to make your marriage work; it’s just like a job. Nothing happens on its own.”
Ask her if she feels that it is important to keep the romance and magic alive in a marriage, and she says, “Yes, it’s very important to keep the romance and magic alive in a relationship. If you don’t, it becomes monotonous and is a recipe for disaster. After a certain point, you don’t have much but each other, so you need to make time to do things together that make you both feel good.”
She adds, “People often take each other for granted because they know your raw truth—they understand what hurts you and what makes you happy. If the other person feels good, they will make you feel good, but if they don’t, they won’t. That’s why it’s better to be independent in life and not rely on someone else to match your expectations. At the same time, I want to say that relationships are very important. Without a strong personal life, you can never truly progress professionally. If your personal life is good, you can still manage even if things aren’t going well professionally. But if it’s the other way around, everything starts to fall apart.”
And who does she look up to? “I look up to Shahid and Mira’s marriage, as well as Ranveer Singh and Deepika Padukone’s relationship. My reason for this is that it’s not easy to be in such a position and still balance both personal and professional life with so much effort. Actually, everything is easy; we make it complicated. It’s our mind and soul imbalance that leads to such problems.”
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